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Thoughts for the Day

Good morning,

“For the Dreamers”

One of the worst things you can ever do is allow your dreams to die because of somebody else’s doubts. If you have a goal, accomplish it. If you have a dream, bring it to fruition. Don’t let anything stop you. If you think you can do it, then do it, and prove it to yourself. Don’t worry about haters, doubters, naysayers or any of that. Your dreams are your dreams, it’s not on anybody else to make them come true for you, it’s all on you. People will believe in you when you believe in you. Your dreams have to become real for you before they can be seen as realistic to anybody else. Become so enthralled and driven by your passion that nothing stops you from living out your dreams. Just because you have supporters doesn’t mean you aren’t doing things wrong and just because you have haters doesn’t mean you’re doing things right. Don’t judge your progress by other peoples idea’s of what progress is. You set your mark and reach it at your pace. Your life is a walk determined by your steps, nobody else’s. What you do, where you go, and how you live is all on you. Believe in who you are enough not to let the next person’s doubts have you doubting yourself. God didn’t place gifts in you for you to let pessimistic people steal them from you. Don’t let anybody’s spoil rob you of your splendor. You can’t share your dreams with everybody; some people will shoot them down just because they don’t understand. Go at your own pace, dream according to the desires of your heart, and be great by your own definition.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

Thoughts for the Day

Good morning,

“Find Acceptance”

There is a fine line between love and dysfunction. There is a distinct difference between passionate and crazy. Beware of the little things you find yourself doing to confuse either of the two. Acceptance is such a huge factors in people’s lives today. The ability to accept something, be it good or bad, is pivotal when it comes to change and growth. Accept that what you want, may not be what you need. Accept that everything you love won’t always love you back. Accept that sometimes when you give, you’re giving to somebody who doesn’t know how to receive. They reject you out of their own neglect. Sometimes the things we’re forced to accept can really hurt, but its not the end of the world. New love does not erase old scars, it just gives you more reasons to appreciate what you’ve experienced. If there are some things you just refuse to accept, don’t be surprised when you’re blocked from taking that next step in life. Don’t let your pride dig a hole your reality can’t climb out of. Learn to stop when you’re ahead. Don’t allow your emotions to have you making stupid decisions, you have to be smarter than that. So many people get caught up in their perception of love that they forget to see the deception in lust. Don’t be fooled by the bliss, don’t be fooled by the butterflies, don’t get caught up in the fairy tale, if its real, there won’t be anything to force. Dwelling on certain things won’t do anything but make bad situation worse. Come to terms with the fact that what you think you want will never compare to what God knows you need.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

Thoughts for the Day

Good morning,

“Experience and Reality”

Have the courage to believe in good people. All men aren’t the same and all women aren’t the same. An experience with one does not guarantee the same with another. Nobody knows what you’ve been through better than you do, but if you got through it, that’s proof that you’re stronger and that better days are ahead. Believe that there is more out there than hurt, pain, and liars. If that’s all you see you’re focusing on the wrong things. Look at yourself, if you make excuses for your flaws, don’t make judgments on anybody else’s. Where you are mentally will determine your perception of what you see physically. If you’re bitter, that’s all you’ll see and attract. Believe that there is more to your story than disappointment, deception, and destruction. The good will outweigh the bad because God promised it. Happiness and genuine joy won’t come into your life until you believe that keeping them is possible. Don’t doubt love then expect to have it. You can’t limit your current position just because you can’t see beyond your past. A lot of people just take whatever comes their way and that’s probably why they are always unhappy with what they get. Don’t just take what you can get, take what you want. This life is yours. Don’t waste time staying with somebody in a situation that you know isn’t going anywhere. You are worth more than just some “chill” time when somebody is bored. Make yourself a priority, if you don’t, you’ll always be just “another” option. The only way to get more out of life is to believe you deserve more and to be strong enough to expect more. When you set the expectation, you establish the standard, once a standard is in place, those who don’t qualify won’t even get an opportunity to waste your time. The reality of it all is, there’s more to life than what you’ve experienced, be brave enough to get something new.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

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Good morning,

“Transitioning to What’s Next”

One of the hardest parts about life is figuring out what’s next. It can get uncomfortable knowing you don’t belong where you are and having no idea of where you need to go. It’s extremely rough when everybody tells you your life should go from A to B but you don’t know what B is. However, it’s on you to find what’s for you. Decide what you want out of life, but don’t decide based on what people say you should have, decide out of your own heart. Then go get it. You can’t get trapped into what you don’t know how to do today. What you can learn to do will always be more important than what you know how to do. You can’t get blocked by what you don’t see in front of you right now. Faith is believing that what God has inside you will guide you to places eyes have not seen and ears have not heard (1 Corinthians 2:9). You don’t begin to find anything until you start seeking it. Nothing just comes to you. The laziest most popular motto is “if it’s meant to be it will find me.” That’s a destructive fallacy. What you attract is a product of your energy mixed with your desires. Don’t let the energy you put off block the desires in your heart. Look, listen, choose, act; you’re alive, so do something. No matter how far wrong you go, if you learn the principles and gain wisdom, you can always turn around. Don’t just sit around moping about what you can’t do and what you don’t know how to do. Seek it, find it, and DO IT. What’s next for you is whatever you want to be next. You’ll learn from the bad, embrace the good, and be better because of it all.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

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Good morning,

“Respect and Love”

Honesty has a lot more to do with respect than it does with love. You don’t need feelings to tell the truth, you don’t need emotion to be loyal, and you shouldn’t need an incentive to be genuine. The highest respect for love is humility. Its realizing you’re wrong, being big enough to apologize, and strong enough to fix things. When people start losing respect for the ones they claim to care about its a sign that something drastic needs to change. Before love, before trust, before commitment, you need a foundation of respect and that comes through genuine friendship. Respect is everything. When you lie to somebody, not only do you deny them the truth, you deny yourself something real. Until the truth is presented, everything that comes after a lie is fake. Respect yourself, respect your partner, and honor the truth enough to always keep it real. Most situations breakdown when lies in the name of love begin to replace friendship built off of honesty and respect. If you take a short cut to building your relationship, you can’t complain about things falling down because you didn’t take the time to lay a stable foundation. Real love won’t start out of lust, you can’t ask your feelings to jump through hoops just because your body couldn’t handle temptation. The way a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they see you. If they treasure you, you’ll be adored. If they take you for granted, you’ll be ignored. That’s just the way things “work” when taking the easy way out comes in front of putting forth effort. Fall with the truth rather than flying with a lie. If you’re at the bottom, the only way to go is up, but if you’re flying with a lie, crashing is inevitable. Respect, compromise, and communication are the little things that help keep love. If the ones you love don’t give you respect, love yourself enough to be remembered as the one who left. Regardless of like, love, infatuation, whatever it may be, respect is required at a minimum. Don’t ever willingly stay somewhere your presence isn’t appreciated. Self-respect permeates itself in every area of your life. When you don’t play with that, people won’t play with you.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

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Good morning,

“Denial”

Doubts and denials are the sponsors of wasted time. The “if’s” that they provide often give people more regrets than plans. Sometimes the “could haves” are hard to accept, but understand that the “could” in that phrase implies that it wasn’t for you. What is supposed to happen, always happens, it just doesn’t always happen in ways that we like. When life hits you there are only two options; accept and change or deny and suffer. When you choose the route of denial, just know you’ve chosen a path full of delays. You can’t fear the truth, the harshest lies you’ll ever experience will be the ones you tell yourself. If it hurts, don’t tell yourself it doesn’t. If you care, don’t try to hide that you do. Healing comes through recognition. Fronting will always put you behind. When it comes to love the worst thing you can do is deny it, when you find that special someone, don’t let anyone or anything get in your way. In certain situations you only get one chance to do it right, so take your time. Impatience makes you sloppy. Thinking things are possible leaves them to chance, but knowing things are possible gives you the power to make a choice. Choose to face those things about your life that aren’t so easy to accept; the moment you do this you’re ready to change them. There is no peace in denial, only in truth. You can’t run from what you know, use it all to your advantage.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

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Good morning,

“Faking it”

Don’t fake it, there’s no point in it and you will get nowhere worth going by doing it. Don’t ever let the desire to have something you don’t need force you to live in a way that’s unbecoming of you. Those who lack substance fake it, and the longer they fake it, the more of it they lack. Don’t bounce back and forth emotionally just to have “something,” it’s a waste of time. Be here or be there, it’s that simple. Trying to be everywhere will get you nowhere. Learn how to faithful before you start promising love and learn how to be consistent before you start asking for trust. When you fake the process you damn the results. Be patient enough to give yourself a chance to have something real. Don’t let frustration have you rushing things. Some women want a love story so bad that all they create is a story, and it may look like love but it’s a fairytale based on lies. Faking it, just to say you have a relationship is the same as building a sand castle, just to say you have a castle. Either way, when it all comes down, what you “had” goes with it. If you’re going to build something, make sure you’re building something that will last. It’s amazing what extremes a fear of loneliness can push people to. Don’t be the one wasting somebody’s time just to have someone. Most men are honest enough to recognize when it’s not their time but too stubborn to realize when it is. Find a balance in truth, you can’t fake have it and expect to really keep it. You can’t imitate, fabricate, or make love, it’s impossible. You either have it or you don’t. There is no shortcut to happiness, you can feed yourself this and you can tell yourself that but that fact remains true.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

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Good morning,

“Change of Plans”

Sometimes, things just don’t go as planned. And though you may not recognize it at the time, a change of plans can really be the best thing for you. You have to be ready for whatever comes in life, not just the things you think you can handle. A plan is a great thing, but a plan that doesn’t incorporate different options for change is a plan to fail. Start expanding your plans, go outside of your immediate wants; make plans that will bring you closer to accomplishing your dreams. Finding the best thing you never knew you needed comes from being willing to put yourself in situations you never thought you’d be in. There are blessings in burdens, miracles in mistakes, and plans in pain. But you’ll never know that if you live trying to avoid it all. Where you want to be in life may require you to go through some stuff you aren’t ready for in order to get there. However, it’s the ups and the downs that give you your balance. There is no triumph without trials and tribulations; if you really want to fly, you can’t be scared to fall. If you’re smart you’ll use the lessons you learned in your setbacks as the guideline to set you on the right track. You should be far more afraid of being unsuccessful than you are of being uncomfortable. Learn how to change and learn how to adapt; because that’s the only way you’ll learn how to evolve into the best you that you can possibly be.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

P.S. Happy 4^th Birthday to my son aka The King. His life has forever changed mine and I’m so thankful.

Thoughts for the Day

Good morning,

“Keep it Real”

Don’t’ ever confuse not getting what you want with being done wrong. Learn to accept things for what they are. Don’t claim you’ve been lied to just because you didn’t think to clarify words and actions you assumed meant obvious things. Assumptions aren’t all bad, especially those coming from intuition, they just get bad when you feel you have to assume because you don’t trust that you’ll be able to ask and get the truth. There’s nothing like finding out something you feel you should’ve known and it’s not from the person who should’ve told you. However, nobody owes you a truth you’ve shown no desire to know. Too many people make the mistake of thinking certain things are owed to them. If it’s always whatever with you, then you can’t expect anybody to feel as if they’ve done wrong by you. The worst kind of person is the one who always claims not to care but still wants people to feel remorseful. If you don’t care, don’t expect anybody else to. If you’re scared to ask direct questions so things are clear, then be content when you’re stuck getting played in the gray. Don’t ever get so comfortable in anything that you start negotiating your happiness. Don’t ever let your feelings paint somebody out to be a villain, just because you wanted to play the victim. Keep it real with yourself, if you don’t, you can’t expect to get something real from anybody else.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com

Thoughts for the Day

Good morning,

“Stress and Frustration”

When it rains it pours and if your mind isn’t right, raindrops won’t be the only thing falling down. Don’t get so caught up stressing all the irrelevant things that you end up missing opportunities to fix and maintain things that really matter. You have to learn to prioritize your stressors. There is no point in worrying about things you have no control over, whether they’re happening tomorrow or next month. Something’s you have to sit & think about, other things you just have to be confident enough to make a decision and move forward. Emotions mixed with frustration can be a detrimental combo, especially when you don’t have the right people around you. You may love them, you may have history with them, and you may have a lot in common with them, but that doesn’t make them good for you. Accept that some people are just no good for your life. You are doing yourself wrong if you continue to let the same person ruin your day, over and over again. It makes no sense to be angry all day about somebody who doesn’t care to think about your feelings for a second. Get around people who ease your frustrations, not add to them. Most people are emotionally broken and frustrated with life because they look for ways to escape problems not ways to solve them. Handle today. No point in ruining where you are now, worrying about some place you’re not even sure you’ll be tomorrow.

Just my thoughts good people, just my thoughts

Rob Hill

www.RobHillSr.com